Hindsight is 2019

A new day, a new month, a new year, and a new decade are in full swing and in my hindsight is 2019.

You’ve heard the phrase, “hindsight is 20/20”, right?  Well, if not, it’s a thing.  It means having perfect vision after we have gone through something.  Because I love puns (double meanings), I was inspired to use this as a theme for this blog.  Let’s see where it goes! (see what I did there?)

In my hindsight I have 20/19 (yes, a pun, again!)

I dreamed small.

I struggled a lot when maybe in some areas I didn’t need to.

I lost much and gained even more.

I made mistakes only to be challenged to see them as choices.

I met some amazing people who weren’t celebrities or known by the world, but they are passionate about what they do and who they are and are working hard to make a difference in their “worlds”.

I became a mother-in-love and an empty-nester within weeks.

I learned to love deeper and harder.

I discovered physical loneliness while experiencing deep intimacy and companionship with God.

I craved authenticity (this one continues) and realized it in deeper parts of myself.

I fell short…not once but I had 365 days-worth of opportunities to fall short…and I apparently took many of them, sometimes knowingly!  Hindsight is 2019.

You know what?

We all fall short.

There is no-one perfect person, method, arrangement, situation, thing, or place.  We might have feelings of euphoria that make us say “this or that is just perfect” …but those are just emotions…highly unreliable.

Are you with me?

You know what else?

When I fell short, and I knew what to do, I did it.  Not every time, but I needed to practice.  So now in 2020, I (hopefully) won’t fall short in the same areas!!

When I fell short and didn’t know what to do.  I cried, I frequently wrote in my journal, I prayed, I surrendered, I vented to trusted friends…and most importantly, I picked myself up and kept going.  I couldn’t let my imperfections keep me down (carrying that into 2020 as well!!)

I heard this quote years ago, “It doesn’t matter how many times you fall; it just matters that you get up!!”

So, if you feel like you have fallen a long way down in your story, no worries, there’s hope.  It is a new year and you can choose differently!!

Here’s the good news…at the end of this year, we will all have 2020 in our hindsight!!

“You can’t go back and change the beginning,

but you can start where you are

and change the ending.”~C.S.Lewis

What will you set your sights on?REFLECTION:

What do you see in your hindsight?

What will your vision be for this year?

Will you focus on years past and the lessons you learned from those years?

How does your hindsight impact your present?

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey,  Happy New Year to you all!!

Kinita

I have arrived…

If you are offended by the title, please read on.  I am not someone who lives with the attitude of “I have arrived”, “I’ve got this”, “I’ve got it together” …or anything else that sounds like that.  However, I have arrived into a new season, a new decade, a new era.  The old is gone and the new is coming…

This spring and summer, my husband and I watched our third son graduate from high-school in June with plans to move out of state (deeming us empty-nesters). We also celebrated the marriage of our middle son to a beautiful young lady in July.  Just this week, I completed half a century of life.  And since not one more minute or experience is guaranteed in my life, I thought I would do a post about the lessons I have learned.

“No Longer Slaves” by Bethel, is a very personal song for me and it unravels me with a melody that always reminds me that from my mother’s womb, God has CHOSEN me.  From deliverance to the drowning of fears and to accepting His Perfect love for me, I am no longer a slave to anything (at least that I which I am aware of).  But I am a child of God.

So yes, I made a list of 50 things that I have learned in the past 5 decades…most of them in the past 25 years…thanks to moving to the USA from Canada, marriage, parenting, running a salon, leading ministries and starting my own consulting business, just to name a few.  Hope it encourages you!

Here’s to 5 decades behind me, the present with all its joys and challenges, and to whatever God has in store for me going forward.  #ISurrenderAll.

So, without further adieu, here’s my list.  Not in any specific order, just how they came to me. I would love to hear how they impact your story.

  1. Keep my eyes on Jesus not on people.
  2. Be true to myself.
  3. Live my story.
  4. Be authentic…even when I am rejected.
  5. Obeying God is the key to my success.
  6. Love well so I can live well.
  7. Be honest to myself and to others.
  8. Learning “I can’t care more than you do” about someone else’s situation.
  9. Be consistent.
  10. Live a life of integrity.
  11. It’s ok to not like pink or pets.
  12. People will always disappoint, God will not.
  13. Never drink coffee when wearing white jeans.
  14. When things go WRONG always make sure I am RIGHT with God.
  15. Ask God what He wants to do in my life not just what I want Him to do.
  16. Consider others better than myself.
  17. Learn my own pace.
  18. Let God’s Word be my pace car in my life.
  19. Surrender only on days that end in “y”.
  20. Listen to and obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit.
  21. Emotional health and spiritual maturity go together.
  22. Keep confidences.
  23. Relish the moments where I get a front-row seat to God’s work in someone’s life.
  24. Speak truth.
  25. Don’t let people “should” on me.
  26. Stay true to my convictions.
  27. Don’t try to keep up with others.
  28. Focus on God’s calling on my life.
  29. Embrace negative emotions / feelings and then surrender them to God for His purposes.
  30. Acknowledge God’s authority in all I do.
  31. Take “mental trips” down memory lane.
  32. Don’t fight the growth process.
  33. Let God be God.
  34. Unity results in exponential growth.
  35. Understand your own expectations.
  36. Most of life’s decisions are in wet cement.
  37. Who I am is more important than what I do.
  38. Hold all things loosely.
  39. Taking risks will reveal strengths and weaknesses.
  40. Learn to live into MY strengths not the ones people think I have.
  41. Stand firm in the knowledge that God loves me…NO MATTER WHAT.
  42. Surround myself with genuine and authentic people.
  43. Mind my own boundaries.
  44. Make sure to always have margin in my life.
  45. Learn to have fun.
  46. Always trust God with the story of another person.
  47. Take more RISKS so I have less REGRETS.
  48. Cry because it is good for my soul not their expectation.
  49. Become a shame lifter and grace giver.
  50. Own my brokenness and pour out God’s healing in me.

 

Here’s to learning more and Growing Forward Together!!

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

Kinita