I have arrived…

If you are offended by the title, please read on.  I am not someone who lives with the attitude of “I have arrived”, “I’ve got this”, “I’ve got it together” …or anything else that sounds like that.  However, I have arrived into a new season, a new decade, a new era.  The old is gone and the new is coming…

This spring and summer, my husband and I watched our third son graduate from high-school in June with plans to move out of state (deeming us empty-nesters). We also celebrated the marriage of our middle son to a beautiful young lady in July.  Just this week, I completed half a century of life.  And since not one more minute or experience is guaranteed in my life, I thought I would do a post about the lessons I have learned.

“No Longer Slaves” by Bethel, is a very personal song for me and it unravels me with a melody that always reminds me that from my mother’s womb, God has CHOSEN me.  From deliverance to the drowning of fears and to accepting His Perfect love for me, I am no longer a slave to anything (at least that I which I am aware of).  But I am a child of God.

So yes, I made a list of 50 things that I have learned in the past 5 decades…most of them in the past 25 years…thanks to moving to the USA from Canada, marriage, parenting, running a salon, leading ministries and starting my own consulting business, just to name a few.  Hope it encourages you!

Here’s to 5 decades behind me, the present with all its joys and challenges, and to whatever God has in store for me going forward.  #ISurrenderAll.

So, without further adieu, here’s my list.  Not in any specific order, just how they came to me. I would love to hear how they impact your story.

  1. Keep my eyes on Jesus not on people.
  2. Be true to myself.
  3. Live my story.
  4. Be authentic…even when I am rejected.
  5. Obeying God is the key to my success.
  6. Love well so I can live well.
  7. Be honest to myself and to others.
  8. Learning “I can’t care more than you do” about someone else’s situation.
  9. Be consistent.
  10. Live a life of integrity.
  11. It’s ok to not like pink or pets.
  12. People will always disappoint, God will not.
  13. Never drink coffee when wearing white jeans.
  14. When things go WRONG always make sure I am RIGHT with God.
  15. Ask God what He wants to do in my life not just what I want Him to do.
  16. Consider others better than myself.
  17. Learn my own pace.
  18. Let God’s Word be my pace car in my life.
  19. Surrender only on days that end in “y”.
  20. Listen to and obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit.
  21. Emotional health and spiritual maturity go together.
  22. Keep confidences.
  23. Relish the moments where I get a front-row seat to God’s work in someone’s life.
  24. Speak truth.
  25. Don’t let people “should” on me.
  26. Stay true to my convictions.
  27. Don’t try to keep up with others.
  28. Focus on God’s calling on my life.
  29. Embrace negative emotions / feelings and then surrender them to God for His purposes.
  30. Acknowledge God’s authority in all I do.
  31. Take “mental trips” down memory lane.
  32. Don’t fight the growth process.
  33. Let God be God.
  34. Unity results in exponential growth.
  35. Understand your own expectations.
  36. Most of life’s decisions are in wet cement.
  37. Who I am is more important than what I do.
  38. Hold all things loosely.
  39. Taking risks will reveal strengths and weaknesses.
  40. Learn to live into MY strengths not the ones people think I have.
  41. Stand firm in the knowledge that God loves me…NO MATTER WHAT.
  42. Surround myself with genuine and authentic people.
  43. Mind my own boundaries.
  44. Make sure to always have margin in my life.
  45. Learn to have fun.
  46. Always trust God with the story of another person.
  47. Take more RISKS so I have less REGRETS.
  48. Cry because it is good for my soul not their expectation.
  49. Become a shame lifter and grace giver.
  50. Own my brokenness and pour out God’s healing in me.

 

Here’s to learning more and Growing Forward Together!!

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

Kinita