I have arrived…

If you are offended by the title, please read on.  I am not someone who lives with the attitude of “I have arrived”, “I’ve got this”, “I’ve got it together” …or anything else that sounds like that.  However, I have arrived into a new season, a new decade, a new era.  The old is gone and the new is coming…

This spring and summer, my husband and I watched our third son graduate from high-school in June with plans to move out of state (deeming us empty-nesters). We also celebrated the marriage of our middle son to a beautiful young lady in July.  Just this week, I completed half a century of life.  And since not one more minute or experience is guaranteed in my life, I thought I would do a post about the lessons I have learned.

“No Longer Slaves” by Bethel, is a very personal song for me and it unravels me with a melody that always reminds me that from my mother’s womb, God has CHOSEN me.  From deliverance to the drowning of fears and to accepting His Perfect love for me, I am no longer a slave to anything (at least that I which I am aware of).  But I am a child of God.

So yes, I made a list of 50 things that I have learned in the past 5 decades…most of them in the past 25 years…thanks to moving to the USA from Canada, marriage, parenting, running a salon, leading ministries and starting my own consulting business, just to name a few.  Hope it encourages you!

Here’s to 5 decades behind me, the present with all its joys and challenges, and to whatever God has in store for me going forward.  #ISurrenderAll.

So, without further adieu, here’s my list.  Not in any specific order, just how they came to me. I would love to hear how they impact your story.

  1. Keep my eyes on Jesus not on people.
  2. Be true to myself.
  3. Live my story.
  4. Be authentic…even when I am rejected.
  5. Obeying God is the key to my success.
  6. Love well so I can live well.
  7. Be honest to myself and to others.
  8. Learning “I can’t care more than you do” about someone else’s situation.
  9. Be consistent.
  10. Live a life of integrity.
  11. It’s ok to not like pink or pets.
  12. People will always disappoint, God will not.
  13. Never drink coffee when wearing white jeans.
  14. When things go WRONG always make sure I am RIGHT with God.
  15. Ask God what He wants to do in my life not just what I want Him to do.
  16. Consider others better than myself.
  17. Learn my own pace.
  18. Let God’s Word be my pace car in my life.
  19. Surrender only on days that end in “y”.
  20. Listen to and obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit.
  21. Emotional health and spiritual maturity go together.
  22. Keep confidences.
  23. Relish the moments where I get a front-row seat to God’s work in someone’s life.
  24. Speak truth.
  25. Don’t let people “should” on me.
  26. Stay true to my convictions.
  27. Don’t try to keep up with others.
  28. Focus on God’s calling on my life.
  29. Embrace negative emotions / feelings and then surrender them to God for His purposes.
  30. Acknowledge God’s authority in all I do.
  31. Take “mental trips” down memory lane.
  32. Don’t fight the growth process.
  33. Let God be God.
  34. Unity results in exponential growth.
  35. Understand your own expectations.
  36. Most of life’s decisions are in wet cement.
  37. Who I am is more important than what I do.
  38. Hold all things loosely.
  39. Taking risks will reveal strengths and weaknesses.
  40. Learn to live into MY strengths not the ones people think I have.
  41. Stand firm in the knowledge that God loves me…NO MATTER WHAT.
  42. Surround myself with genuine and authentic people.
  43. Mind my own boundaries.
  44. Make sure to always have margin in my life.
  45. Learn to have fun.
  46. Always trust God with the story of another person.
  47. Take more RISKS so I have less REGRETS.
  48. Cry because it is good for my soul not their expectation.
  49. Become a shame lifter and grace giver.
  50. Own my brokenness and pour out God’s healing in me.

 

Here’s to learning more and Growing Forward Together!!

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

Kinita

 

Holy Salad: food for thought

“LET US DRAW near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.  LET US HOLD unswervingly to the hope we profess, for He who promised is faithful.  And LET US CONSIDER how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, LET US NOT GIVE UP meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but LET US ENCOURAGE one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” (Hebrews 10:22-25)

Inspired by the above passage, I titled this blog “Holy Salad” because it has “let us” (aka. lettuce) and various ingredients sprinkled on to give us the nourishment we need for our souls and for those around us.  Are verses “toppings” to you or do you experience real flavor of every ingredient with each morsel of God’s Word?

For those who know me or have been following my blog posts, I love puns too!!😊

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LET US DRAW – the closer we get to God, the more intimate the experience.  The heart softens, the tears may fall, and the posture may be humbled and one of submission.  Yet in that space we feel stronger than we have ever felt because it is His strength and power by which we kneel in our hearts. We feel the cool sprinkle of His blood over our sin stained hearts and with only a sprinkle, we are washed clean again.  Refreshed and ready to move forward on our journey.

Will you dare to draw near to Him?

LET US HOLD unswervingly.  Don’t let go.  You think the tips of your fingers will hurt because you are holding on so tightly, but they really don’t.  Your flesh is lying to you, it always does.  Your heart is holding on to His, He is the shadow to your soul.  Be still in this space He says, just let go of your thoughts.  Let Him hold your heart in a way like no one ever has.

Will you dare to hold Him like that?

LET US CONSIDER how to spur one another on toward love and good deeds.  Not ones you want others to do but as you consider others better than yourself, trust them to be used by God and for His purposes.  Think deeply about the other person and bring them to the throne of Grace where you enjoy a deep peace that can only be given to you by The Father.  Consider how you might hold a heart and draw that person to the Christ you have come to know and love.  Splash onto them the love and compassion that was sprinkled on you.

Will you dare consider how God might use you in this way?                                      

LET US NOT GIVE UP joining others in community.  Don’t make it about your story, make it about what God can do in and through you as you join others.  Put the pain and pride aside and do not give up the fight for what is right, true, noble, good, just.  You are needed in the Kingdom to build the Kingdom with your story.

Will you dare to not give up for the sake of Christ and the salvation of another?

LET US ENCOURAGE one another and lift hearts to the Throne from which we find comfort.  Build one another up in the LORD and not in the flesh.  Take comfort in how God has made you and brought you this far in your story and share that encouragement as a testimony of God’s goodness and faithfulness in your life.

Will you dare encourage another more than you have received?

 

REFLECTION:

  1. Take time to answer the questions.
  2. What ingredients would your “salad” have in it?

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey!

Kinita

When life doesn’t have an easy button…

“It’s so hard, you know?”  I hear this all the time used as an excuse for making bad choices.

Let’s keep this honest. I don’t know what is hard in your story or how hard it is. We all face hard things and I can only live my own story.  Every day I am challenged to choose differently and not use difficult things in my story as an excuse. I often wish I could just push a button and make this situation or that personal relationship easy, or at least easier!

As I get older, what I continue to learn is that sometimes our choices make life harder.  This is because sometimes what we choose is sin. We try to justify our sinful choices with the excuse that making good choices is somehow beyond our reach.

We go left when asked to go right.  #disobedience

We eat junk when our body says, “eat healthier”.  #rebellion

We stay when we are asked to go.  #NotJustJonahAndTheWhale

We spend more time talking about what we want to do rather than doing it.  #procrastinating

Nike had a slogan of “Just Do It” that made them billions of dollars. They chose well, but choosing well is easier said than done, eh?

Not if you have the right tools.

Spiritual Tools:

Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ Who gives me strength”.

Matthew 6:33, “Seek first the Kingdom of God and all these other things will be added to it.”

1 Timothy 7-10, “Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly.  For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promises for both the present life and the life to come.  This is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance.  That is why we labour and strive, because we have put our hope in the living God, who is the Saviour of all people, and especially of those who believe.”

Could God’s Word be our “easy button” for choices that lead to strength, peace, patience, endurance, perseverance…whatever you need to make your load lighter?

Physical Fitness Tool:

Finding the right fitness plan for you and your body.  For me, I have learned that I need people with me when I exercise to help me stay consistent.  Not just a gym full of fellow strugglers but one or two people who will come alongside and exercise with me but also push me to get better.  Sadly, I have yet to find such companions.

Emotional Mental Tool:

A trusted friend is great but sometimes we need more than that to carry the heavy stuff up and away from our path.  A counselor, Life Coach or Spiritual Director that will give you a different perspective to help lighten your load.

The Gospel:

The sacrifice Jesus made on the cross for you and for me. I am guessing that having nails pierced through hands and feet and donning a crown of thorns for the sake of another…IS HARD.  Every hard thing I have ever experienced in my life, pales in comparison.

For those of us that claim that “we are hidden with Christ in God” (Colossians 3), this means we are to take up that cross and follow Him…regardless of how hard the situation is.

I don’t recall hearing that Jesus grumbled or complained about how hard it was to take our sin upon Him.  He prayed.  He obeyed.  He did what His Father asked Him to.  He wanted God’s Will.

Having trouble obeying?

You are not alone! However, choosing to obey (with God’s promised help) will give you the freedom and peace you seek and bring clarity of what God’s Will is for you.  The more you grumble and complain, the further you get pulled away from intimacy with God.

Neil Anderson puts it this way. (RE: temptation)

  1. Lust of the flesh draws us away from the Will of God (destroying our dependence on God; John 15:5) When we give into this lust we trust more in our own ways and ideas than we do the Holy Spirit.
  2. Lust of the eyes draws us away from God’s Word (destroying our confidence in God; John 15:7) We allow the world, the flesh, and the devil to fill us with their thoughts and words instead of God’s truth.
  3. Pride of life draws us away from Worship of God (destroying our obedience to God; John 15:8-10) We embrace our idols rather than find comfort in the presence of God.

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Do you want to obey God? Are you struggling with knowing His Will, with being in and understanding His Word, or do you lack Worship? Maybe it is lust and pride that is distracting you.

REFLECTION:

Question is… “what are you willing to do about it?”

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey.

Kinita

Who wants an upgrade?

I never buy myself things when out shopping for Christmas presents.  But this past Christmas something small but significant happened.

We bought a lotion set for someone and the store was running a special deal of “buy 3 get 2 free”.  Although that was more than we needed, I trusted that God would let me know who we were to gift the extra ones to.  He was faithful in giving me two names of people I normally wouldn’t buy gifts for, but I was happy to bless. But there was still one lotion left.

I pondered some more and then my husband said, “why don’t you keep it”.  I reasoned that I couldn’t possibly keep it because keeping it went against my personal policy of “not buying anything for myself at Christmas”.  He then reminded me that I had put lotion on the grocery list and perhaps this was just an “upgrade”.  He did have a point.  BUT was I okay with an upgrade?  Did I deserve it?  There must be someone who needs it more than I do.  These were just some of the questions running through my mind as we paid for the items and left the store.

So, I kept the lotion for myself and felt compelled to look for a greater purpose.  That’s when the Holy Spirit nudged me to ponder the thousands of wishes I have had over the years.  Many of them never came to be and many I have forgotten about.  For a season of my life I carried a lot of regrets in my heart.  I came to understand that some of those were simply wishes and not desires God wanted for me.

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Wishes. Desires.  Dreams.  Fleeting as some of them may be, we all have them.  But maybe God wants to give us a reminder of something better.  An upgrade, perhaps?

At the change of a calendar year I take the “woulda, shoulda, couldas” of the year and lay them at the cross…again…for the last time. Lol!!  I can’t go back and change time, I can only grow forward with what I have learned and try to do a little better.

I wrote the first draft of this post in the last few days of 2018 and now it is officially 2019.  It needed an upgrade, aka editing and now I am ready for an upgrade too – an upgrade of my attitude, my approach to life and situations that it holds, my thought life, my choices the first time and the reminder to keep simplifying and downsizing so there is an upgrade in my faith.

I continue to practice trusting God for the desires of my heart and for His timing.

There isn’t much I deserve in this life.  I believe that “while I was yet a sinner, Christ demonstrated his love for me.” I am not my own.  I have been bought with a price.  It wasn’t a “special” that was running during a particular season.  Christ paid the price with His life ONCE, so I could have mine ETERNALLY forever!  That my friends, is an upgrade no one else can match!!  It truly is a deal of a lifetime. No gimmicks. Just truth…all year round.

Maybe you are entering 2019 with a thousand desires that might be unrealized from years past.  My prayer is that:

  1. You will learn to surrender your desires (if you haven’t already) and embrace ones that reveal God’s greater purpose for you. They might even be one in the same.
  2. That you continue to grow in gratitude for what you do have.

 

May you have a blessed 2019 and enjoy the upgrades God has in store for you this year!!

 

REFLECTION:

What was your favourite gift at Christmas?

What are some wishes, longings, desires that you need to surrender?

Where do you need an upgrade in your story?

Are you carrying regrets from the past? What is God asking you to do with them?

Who in your life needs the gifts God has given you?

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey,

Kinita

The Welcome

They welcomed a baby into their world and were told to call Him Immanuel, which means “God with us”.  They displayed Him – God – in the form of a baby, in a manger, on a bed of straw, with the stench of the barn animals and noises that go with them.  As strange as it might sound to some, this was a regal moment in an environment that was clearly less than stellar for a King.  They were afraid, they had anxiety, they had fatigue.  Yet they welcomed the shepherds that night. And later, the wise men.  They were open to whoever would show up to worship this king.

Over the years, truth be told, I have become bored with the Christmas story.  Maybe because I am so accustomed to hearing it.  And partially because I have experienced, first hand, the conditional sharing of Jesus from some believers.  In my journey, I am learning that I want the meaning of Christmas to be an experience carried throughout the year and not one event that happens in December.  Christmas music, on the other hand, can start 2 weeks before and not a minute sooner. LOL!!

So, every year, I pray that God would rewire me, so I can hear what He wants me to hear in this season of my journey.  Because He is such a faithful God, He has done just that, yet again.  He is revealing something this year that I hadn’t ever considered.  Something simple in a new and fresh way hidden in the Christmas story.

What is it? You ask?

…Let me tell you. (using some creative license of course)

I have given birth to 3 sons and I assure you, I wasn’t “people ready” that soon after giving birth.  I had no interest in hosting guests.   How did Mary do it?  How did she welcome the shepherds to her “home” so soon?  How did she put up with all those “unwanted” smells in that space?

Here it is…

“Immanuel”.  God with us.

Mary had God with her, so she welcomed the strangers into her home.  She didn’t know them.  She didn’t know that they would arrive.  The shepherds had angels to announce the arrival of Jesus and the wise men had a star to follow till they found His specific location.  But Mary had no announcement, she didn’t have a butler, nor a maid, nor any technology that would give her a heads up that they were coming.  She didn’t have time, energy, or reason to clean up the stable for these unexpected guests.

She welcomed them because she knew they were coming to see Jesus.

Will this be the experience in your home this Christmas or throughout the year?  Will you welcome guests into your home so they can experience Jesus?  Or will you be caught up with the hustle and bustle, cleaning, prepping, and complaining, all in the name of Christmas?

To my Christian friends, this is “doing missions”.  You don’t have to leave your neighbourhood, town, city, state, or country to express your missional heart.  You only need to open your doors.

Make room at your table.  Make room in your story.   We can give what we do have.

If you have Jesus, you can give Him freely to those around you.  Don’t distract them or allow yourself to be distracted with all the trimmings of the season. Let them see the real you this Christmas and help them experience Jesus through your story.

I think when Mary pondered in her heart the realities of becoming the mother of Jesus, perhaps she understood this in a very deep and intimate way.  She knew that Jesus would be the Saviour of the World and so she freely shared Him without expectations. What a great example for us today.

I believe God births things in us not just as a gift for us but for those around us.

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Over the past several years, we as a family have struggled to feel welcomed into certain relationships, certain homes.  No judgement, only forgiveness.

We used those times to welcome those who didn’t have a place to go and made the most of the experience in our home, despite the pain we may have carried deep in our hearts, sharing what we had and welcoming whoever God brought our way.

 

 

Jesus offers you the same kind of welcome when you come to Him.

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As you head into Christmas, I wish you a time of celebration, peace, and joy!! May you feel the presence of God through the gifts you give and receive and through the smiles and laughter all around you.  If your season includes tears of sorrow, know that He catches every tear and will one day pour them out over you in the form of blessings.

 

January is around the corner and I hope you don’t forget that “God is with you” still!!

Merry Christmas to all and please know that you are always welcome in my story!

 

Thank you for joining me on my journey,

Kinita

REFLECTION:

What is God birthing in you?

Who is God asking you to welcome into your story today?

Do you extend the welcome you received at the cross?

Less is More

We are approaching the end of another year.  Time is flying by.  Like many others, I tend to feel very nostalgic and introspective at this time of the year.  Perhaps, because it is the Advent season where we celebrate the arrival of the Christ child, while also practicing His presence each day. Christmas, 2015

Today, as I reflect, I am reminded of a significant word that the LORD gave me at the beginning of this Advent season.  I am not much for focusing on one word, but it looks like this year is different.  What is the word you ask?  Downsizing.

What a strange word to be pondering during Advent.  And yet, not that strange at all.  Advent is a time to prepare our hearts for the arrival of Jesus as a baby in a manger and then to celebrate His birth on Christmas Day.

Plain and simple…right?

Unfortunately, we tend to do the opposite.  We make it complicated.  We fill our houses, calendars, fridges, credit cards, minds, and stomachs with all the treats and trimmings of the season and allow ourselves to indulge, with excuses that end in “Tis the season!”.

I am not trying to be a scrooge.  I like Christmas, just not in the way most people in my life do.

For the past 2 years, I have seen a trend in my heart.  The dislike for what I call, “Christmas clutter.”  Because of some personal circumstances, our family has taken a break from decorations, shopping, gift giving and many other common festivities that happen during this time of the year, here in America.

Sounds dreary and scrooge-like to many of you, I am sure.  But we have found a Joy unspeakable and a Peace that passes all understanding as a result.

Isn’t that the real reason for the season?  Joy and Peace?

I am now being called to downsize to make even more room for Jesus in my story.  Just like when Mary & Joseph arrived in Bethlehem, there was no room at the inn for them.  I don’t want my story to go like that.

The more I get the more I want…of Him.

I asked God where He wanted me to downsize, since His view of my story is better than mine.

He gave me this… “boundaries in pleasant places” (Psalm 16:6), so I could gain clarity about how and where He wants me to downsize.

Physically – house size, clothes, body size, possessions.

We are not changing our address anytime soon (unless God decides otherwise).  I clearly have too many clothes than I know what to do with.  Although we have had garage sales for various reasons over the past few years, I am sensing that God is asking us to sell even more of the items we own.  Perhaps He already knows something we don’t.

Emotionally – deal with all my feelings (good, bad, otherwise), put boundaries in place that guard and protect, remove certain people from my life that cause undue emotional stress (toxic people), implement healthy social media boundaries.

This past year has been full of feelings new and old, shallow, and deep.  God has been faithful in leading and guiding every step of the way.  In some cases, it was easy in this area. But in other ways, it was quite challenging.  I want to continue to pursue emotional health not only because it is a special gift that I give to the people in my life, but it also strengthens my witness.  I learned a phrase last year, “one cannot be spiritually mature while being emotionally unhealthy at the same time.”  This statement has impacted me deeply and helped me downsize effectively.

Mentally – evaluate what I am feeding my brain, determine how I am strengthening my brain to function the way it is supposed to, identify lies I am believing and replace them with the truth.

God’s Word has been the most effective tool that does the above for me.  Just being in the Word isn’t enough, I have to let it do its work in me.

Spiritually – tighten down on my theology, step into the Gospel more intentionally, seek the presence of God in the deepest parts of my story so I have more of Him and less of me, push away teachings and practices that don’t line up with God’s Word.

If I don’t have a good handle on the Gospel, then my life will show it.  In 2015, I survived an earthquake that resulted in a deeper pursuit of Jesus and the determination to live like I want to die.  With integrity and deep resolve.

In a couple of weeks, we will celebrate Jesus’ birth. In the meantime, I will continue to downsize by dying to myself so there is more room for Jesus when He arrives.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and your loved ones!!

REFLECTION:

How about you?

Is God calling you do downsize?  If so, where?

How will you respond to His invitation this advent season?

Is there room in your story for Him or will you turn Him away?

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey!

Kinita

Satan is a pimp…

[I wrote this back in May, but haven’t posted since then.  I have been writing pretty faithfully so watch for more posts in the near future.  I started my own business in June called Seema Ministries, LLC.  Checkout our website at http://SeemaMinistries.com and let me know what you think!!]

 

…kick him to the curb.

I have a picture burned in my brain’s photo album and because of the sensitivity of the subject matter, the actual location this picture was taken and the danger it might bring to people I dearly love, I cannot post it.

The picture is of men standing on a balcony of a nearby dingy building with their phones in hand and their eyes fixed on the women prostituting themselves on the street corner below.  They were the pimps, watching their possessions.

(These facts were given to me by the trusted people we were serving with).

Please, stay with me a moment longer.

I took the picture and stood there watching them watch them.  I was overcome with emotions of anger, disgust, a deep sadness, and a sense of “why???”.  These men are made in the image of God, right?  So why the deep feelings of disgust?

It’s the behavior y’all.  They stand around prowling and waiting to steal, kill and destroy the spirit of innocent young girls, young boys, and women.

Sound like anyone you know?  It did to me. Satan.

As I embraced the negative emotions that I was experiencing in that moment, the Holy Spirit revealed that those pimps are no different than the Enemy (Satan) himself.  I also have a deep disgust for him and a sadness of how he tries to infect the lives of those I love and hold dear to my heart.

As we read in John 10:10, “the Enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy…”

Also, in 1 Peter 5:8, “Be alert and of sober mind.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour”.

The only difference is that we can’t always physically see the Enemy prowling.  Is God’s Word enough for you to believe he is?

As the Enemy prowls around (like a pimp) looking for someone to devour how are you making yourself available?  How are you guarding yourself?

There are so many little (and big) ways that the Enemy pimps his way into our lives.  It seems the big ways are “easier” to fight off sometimes. A few little ways he might be trying to pimp us with.

  1. He keeps us busy.
  2. He provokes us.
  3. He deceives us.
  4. He feeds our idols.

The list goes on and on.  I would love to hear your thoughts!

2 Timothy 3:16-17, “Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness, so that the man (or woman) of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

I am a firm believer that God’s Word fills me with His truth to fight the lies that I believe.  He corrects my thinking, so it doesn’t become “stinking thinking”.

Satan wants to be the pimp of our minds which then affects our behaviours.   Prostitutes have been physically prostituted, but I think Christians are being mentally / emotionally prostituted in many ways.

Where our thoughts linger, so go our behaviours.

Quoting Tim Keller, “sin is a kind of practical atheism – acting as if God were not there”.

Since God’s Word is teaching us that the Enemy is going to do it anyway and we can’t change him, then I believe what we need to do (as followers of Christ) is protect ourselves as we remember the second part of John 10:10, “…I have come to give life and give it abundantly!”

  1. Confess your sin. (unconfessed sin opens the door to the Enemy)
  2. Put on your spiritual armor (Ephesians 6)
  3. Get accountability from a truth teller and Jesus lover. (sorry to say, that not all Christians fit this description)
  4. Choose to walk in the freedom that The Gospel of Jesus Christ has afforded you.

Doing these things doesn’t mean the journey will be easy.  It means that you will be able to grow stronger in your faith and understanding of God’s love for you because He is the one that does the protecting as we engage in this way.

Several years ago, one of my dear mentor/friends, Patty, said these words to me during a very challenging season in my life.  “The Enemy plays dirty”.  Through her stories, experience, and wisdom she worked with the Holy Spirit to develop in me the confidence to stand firm in my faith and not sway towards what the world, the flesh and the devil do.  With the help of the Holy Spirit, I have learned to “play nice” and allow Him to pour out His Grace whenever evil is present as He is protecting me.

I have been back from that trip for about a month now and the picture I have burned in my brain continues to sit at the forefront of my memory.  I realize that I am still sad because I can’t really do anything about them.  But God gives me HOPE, and I can do something about the Enemy wanting to pimp you.

I can point you to The Rescue, Jesus Christ.  He Rescued us by pouring out His blood as a ransom for our sin. He paid the price, so we wouldn’t have to.  As a result, we are free.  We aren’t getting the life we deserve (mercy), we are getting this life as a gift (grace)!

Please dear friend, LIVE into that freedom.  LIVE into that Truth.  For your sake, and mine…and theirs.

 

REFLECTION:

Where do you see the Enemy pimping you out?

Are you on standing on the curb too?

What are you willing to do about it?

 

Thank you for joining me on the journey,

Kinita

Can I have this dance?

It was the 8th grade school dance and once again I would be standing on the
sidelines…alone.
All the popular girls were being escorted to the dance floor by many of the
popular boys. I wore a cute outfit and took time to do my hair. I even took the
risk to wear a pair of high heels I borrowed from my mother’s closet. Yes, in the
8th grade, I wore the same size she did. I remember leaning against the wall really
enjoying the music of my generation, the 80’s and was even singing along to many
of the songs. I was enjoying myself for the most part but still had a deep longing
to “be asked to dance”. It didn’t happen.

So, I took matters into my own hands and walked nervously across the gym floor
to him. He will remain nameless for many reasons. There was an Air Supply song
playing that “set the mood” (in my case courage…don’t judge). Before I knew it, I
asked, and he said “sure”, and we were on the dance floor together. Although I
was elated, I was also petrified that I was going to stumble and somehow
embarrass myself or him. Looking back on that day, it seemed right that I would
dance with him because we were the same ethnicity. Although our school was
very multi-ethnic, deep in my heart, I believed I didn’t have a chance with any
other type. Perhaps it was also because I was discovering how I identified
ethnically and racially. And maybe this is the adult me making that assumption
because the 8th grader me, was just trying to get involved so I didn’t feel left out.

 

Class pic

Grade 8 class of 1984.  Milliken Mills P.S., Markham, Ontario, Canada

 

 

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Salt & Pepper shakers resting in a dance position 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fast forward thirty plus years and here I sit, married to the man of my dreams, a
mother to very-quickly-growing-children, and so far away from who I was back
then. I have learned, lived, cried, celebrated, laughed, and danced much since
that evening in the school gym. That young man followed his own religion and
became a brain surgeon. Clearly, we took different paths.

I also have learned something in these past decades. It is NEVER a good idea for
me to take the lead ahead of God’s plans. I have learned that it is ALWAYS best
for me to wait for the Holy Spirit to lead me to the places and spaces He wants for
me.

Thus, the phrase, “Can I have this dance?”. This phrase has become an intimate
part of my spiritual journey but has great rewards in my physical one as well. Let
me explain.

Can I have this dance? This is the Holy Spirit asking me to dance with Him on the
“dance floor” of His choosing. Over the years the dance floor has been locations,
relationships, parenting, jobs, speaking engagements, churches, and a whole list
of conversations where I needed the guidance of the Holy Spirit. There were
many times, when I “didn’t know the song” or “the steps” or even what “shoes” to
wear. But every time, He gave me the assurance that He would “fit my feet” with
the proper shoes. He would lead me across the dance floor in a graceful manner,
cascading to the “music” of His choosing. All I needed was to “trust Him”. God is
a good God and if I followed His steps for me, He wouldn’t allow me to stumble. I
do that on my own. Considering I don’t have the greatest dance moves on a real
dance floor, I knew I could use all the help I could get!

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A little fun with my hubby on the dance floor of a friend’s wedding 🙂

He leads, I follow!!

I make my desires and longings known to Him and in His good time and according
to His purpose for my life, He invites me to dance with Him as He opens doors to
the dance floors of his choosing.

There are some “dance floors” I haven’t been asked to dance on yet, even though
they are places of deep longing. So, I am trusting Him to groom me for the
appointed time.

What about you? Are you ready to dance?

REFLECTION:

What is holding you back from dancing with the Holy Spirit?

What is the “dance floor” you want the Holy Spirit to invite you on?

How willing are you to dance with the Holy Spirt when He asks?

Where in your story are you “taking matters into your own hands”?

 

Thank you for joining me on this journey as I dance with the Holy Spirit.

Kinita